My wardrobe size is 2m x 2m x 0.75m with clothes for Winter,
Summer, party, work, sports. When I graduated from university, jobless, having
a tiny amount saving from tutoring, I had no idea about the feeling of being
enough, always starved for beautiful things like clothes, accessories, perfume…
Luckily, I feel enough now with no need of buying more clothes. However, the
need of feeling new and different every day still exists. But my wardrobe is
full now, even using a washing machine doesn’t make my clothes old fast enough.
This is quite annoyed firstly. Some of my friends solve the issue by having 2
wardrobes, 1 in their bedroom, 1 from converted another room to a walking
closet. It works for a specific time.
When I was small, my family was not rich. I had been taught
to study hard and do housework. Hang out with friend rarely happened, might be
2 hours per week max. That’s how 8X generation has been raised. After war, all
families worked their ass off building thing from nothingness. So, money has a
special meaning in my life, important to have an easy life. Being beauty never have
high priority in my life. Just beauty enough, I don’t have the urge to be extremely
beauty like Kim Kardashian or Ngoc Trinh or Toc Tien. To have surgery, taking
medicine to lose weight, diet by stop eating my favorite food are never an
option to me. I enjoy eating good food highly decorated, good wine, delicious
cake which goes well with dark coffee and strong tea. And I do enjoy seeing myself
beautiful, healthy, fashion enough.
People usually said that women is obsessed with shopping.
From my friends and my experience, over-shopping is a symptom of loneliness in
women. I see that Vietnamese women somehow struggle between housework and freedom.
We do not expert at using our free time on our own. In the end, we turn back to
housework and shopping which are 2 easiest ways to spend time. We did not get
used with the term of solo traveling, researching, investment, wine friend, sport
friend.
It took me quite a long time to build my routine of
researching, exercise, and hangout. Instead of buying clothes to stay new and
different every day, I read Elle fashion magazine for having trending fashion view
and apply back to my existing clothes. In weekend, I can mix and match my clothes
following the new ways I saw in weekdays. That method works out quite enough
for me.
Besides, simple DIY is the effective hobby to refresh old clothes.
The easiest way is to cut old pants to shorts, old t-shirts to crop top. Short skirt
and dress can be fixed by sewing an extended floral lace fabric. Outdated dress
can be cut in 2 pieces, 1 crop top, 1 skirt. Many DIY methods are waiting for
your experiment.
When you have cut down the cost and the time for shopping,
that amount can spend for new things.
- Learning new language: invest in your mind
- Rent or buy a clean, bright house: invest in your mind, your health
- Try new sports: train your mind, improve your health, your future
- Spend time with friends like operate a party at home, hang out: invest in your relationship
- Researching Real estate, …
When learning car driving, I have a chance to meet a lot of
beautiful friends at the car driving test center. We keep our friendship till
now. They sometimes share about their experience in surgery and what new
surgery they are going to take. To this topic, I have no comment since my focus
nowadays lied with road bike for sprint triathlon. Investigating a fit road
bike for Vietnamese women costs me almost weekend free time. Frame size,
geometry, head tube, stack, tire, saddle, … are all new terms to me. This is just
an example of how to spend your free time effectively. Don’t need to be obsessed
with making more money but focus on developing yourself inside out is a true long-term
goal.
Having enough money, fit body, good appearance, healthy mind
are my cement bricks to happier life.
Each woman has their own interest. Mine is above but yours
might be other things. Find yours and try them out. Some people might be
uncertain what is your interest. Some days, you recognized that your hobby turn
out is not your thing. Just leave it and move on. At least, your knowledge is enriched
with something deep. We have many decades lie ahead, means many times to try
and fail and try again till we find out our things. Catch a hint of feeling, dig
it out, inspect it, invest your time, your energy. It is better than doing nothing
or blindly follow what people said.
Switch gear, stop buying clothes, start investigating to buy
new meaningful things is an option worth a try.
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